Mindset & Self-Care

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Do you believe in this saying, time heals all wounds? Those words seem to carry more weight but it is definitely so much easier to just read them as they are and just let it flow and drift to where it’s supposed to be or mean.

But I linger on those words again. What do those words really mean? The more I try to absorb what it means, the harder it is to understand. Then, after much contemplation in my brain, it starts to ring a bell. I hope it really does. I hope that time really heals all wounds.

As i ponder on the thought, I am realising how time seems to move so slow when one is trying to heal a wound. The brain cells move fast as the heart tries to catch up. Yes, I’d like to think that time heals all wounds.

Come to think of it, when you were heartbroken, beaten and crashed, you would probably say your greatest friend is time. It doesn’t matter what happened in the past. “Learn to leak your own wounds”. Let God renew your spirit and strength.

Why do humans fail and get wounded? The simple answer is that…so we will all learn how to pick ourselves up.

Here are some of the things you can do in the process of healing:

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• Own your space. As you are figuring out the best way to pick yourself up, this is also the best time to take your space and really own it. More often, people want to quickly want to forget what happened in the past by associating themselves to their friends or family, talking and hanging out with them in the hope to fill the time. This time, do yourself a favour to just be in the moment. Grieve if you must. Cry louder if it makes you feel better. Write in your journal if it suits you. Listen to a song or simply pray if you feel you needed it. But during this time, allow yourself to feel the emotions flow in your entire body.

If you ignore the pain, the pain will come to haunt you again. Maybe not soon but perhaps in the future and when that happened, you would realise that the pain was still there. Yes the pain will not go away completely. But it will change you. The pain will only be healed when you allow it to be…naturally…from the inside of you.

• Build a good foundation. Much like building a house, you want to build a good foundation. This foundation is your “being”. You are starting anew and experience thought you well. This is a good time to remember and revisit the values that you feel are important to you. When people are consumed either by happiness or pain, they may ignore their own values to please people or because the situation calls for it that they allowed a situation contradicting to their values to take over. As you allow yourself to complete healing, it is crucial to recognise your most protected values that makes you as a human being.

It is much harder and costly to renovate a house later on. So why now take this golden opportunity to redesign your life and set a good foundation.

• Welcome visitors. Towards healing and starting anew, you would soon realise that you are more open to receiving new people into your life. You are more careful in choosing to invite visitors in your house. You are wiser because you have owned your “space” and set a good foundation. Good people will naturally be attracted to you because you radiate to the people that probably holds a similar space and protects the same values as you do.

• Let go completely and let time heal your wounds. Trust the process. Pray always.

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I will share with you how knowing yourself first can be your only guide in formulating and composing a meaningful life and how this can lead you to be a beacon of light to others. By it, I mean serving God by being a servant.

You can never be others! You are unique. Therefore, don’t try to be someone else or be somebody else.

As you go through the journey of knowing yourself, it is easy to get lost in the world of others with social media buzz. You will see the accomplishments of other people whom you follow or even admire in the process of getting to know your true self. You unconsciously copy someone else’s. It is normal. You will experience this as you try to draw inspiration from others.

There is nothing to be ashamed of about trying to be someone else because you wanted to be a better person. Just bear in mind that you are in the process of knowing who you are. You can be mindful of this by writing your daily thoughts and inspiration.

Here are some of the steps you can do to start:

1. Write down the desires of your heart. Start with your personal goals. What is that one thing in life that you wish you could be or have? The more precise your goals are, the better.

2. Next, ask yourself, how would you feel when you already accomplished your goal? Think about how that one personal goal can move and change you as a person.

3. Write down your most important values. Before you get too excited and move on, this next step is the most crucial thing in your journey towards achieving that goal. Whatever your values and principles in life you uphold and treasure, be sure to write them down.

If you treasure family time, then be sure to write it down boldly. If you value integrity, include it in. Your values and principles are your guiding light to where your purpose is.

4. Continuously be kind to yourself. In the process of knowing yourself, you will experience being overwhelmed by things you feel strongly concerning. It is the same feeling when trying to get to know someone, like a friend or a partner. Being brutally honest in facing yourself is the best thing in the world.

At first, it can be scary. You will come across shame, resistance, awe, and other things you might be experiencing for the first time. You will be very emotional at first. However, it is a beautiful feeling you can ever experience. Relish the moment. You can write them down in your journal.

5. Accept yourself. Admitting that you are someone unique, for the first time in your life. You can dig deeper into finding your true self and drawing from that strength of knowing who you are, is your greatest asset. That is your core being speaking to you. Your authentic you, telling you to use your voice, asking you to be who you are. Be happy knowing who you are and using that to affect others positively. You are unique with true gifts and talents.

7. Love yourself. Getting to know your true self while you strive to continue to accept who you are and what your actual voice is. You will get passed through that inhibition that you set in yourself for a long time. You will be ready for your “real journey” and purpose. You will welcome life each day in a meaningful way.

8. Lastly, Remember to be a beacon of light. It doesn’t matter how you perceive the meaning of a beacon. It simply means you will have the strength of serving God by serving others.

Know Thyself is the easiest and the most challenging way of creating a meaningful and purposeful life that not only affects your own life but others as well. If you are still in doubt of where you want to be, what career you want to pursue, or you still have that inhibition, I challenge you to begin your journey by knowing yourself first. You can start today. You can start now. I am happy to read your success story, so remember to share it!

“He who knows others is wise; he who knows himself is enlightened.”